Life with Baby One Month

 
life with baby one month
 

These next couple of posts will be “back-dated”. I had intended to update you guys on my experiences at the end of each month as I adjusted to life with a new baby. But you know…things got sidetracked…life with a new baby, need I say more? Anyway, I thought I’d still go ahead with the monthly posts as planned as I’d kept notes, a diary of sorts, since her birth. So here is what I remember…this is life with baby one month.

My opinion if you’re coming home with a newborn? Don’t make any plans for at least a month.  Our first week at home was a blur. I don’t think we slept more than two hours at a time. I was lucky that Mr. Bear got a week paternity leave which helped ease the burden. If you read about my birth experience, you’ll remember that I ended up having to have a C-section. Our apartment is two stories. The bedrooms/bathrooms are on the second floor.  Climbing the stairs several times a day, sometimes with baby in hand, was not easy.  I’m also breastfeeding which means that there was only so much Mr. Bear could do in terms of helping with feedings. Though I ended up supplementing (which I may talk more about in a separate post). Needless to say, we were tired. Very tired. Everyone kept telling me “sleep when the baby is sleeping”. Easier said then done. In the beginning when she only slept for a couple hours at a time – I’d do other things in that precious time like eat, take a bath (in my case a cowboy due to the C-section), do the laundry, and I dunno, maybe check my email? Lol.

She’s a crier. And boy, did she cry. Especially during the first month. Of course, a newborn is going to cry. This is a strange new place away from the warmth and comfort of the womb.  And as a new parent, you’re not always gonna know what’s wrong. Change her, feed her, comfort her…and if she was still crying, well, sometimes, I was at a loss. We guessed that she was suffering from gas pains and tried experimenting with different formulas for supplementing but this didn’t make much difference. We also tried Infacol and Oval drops on occasion.  Both of these medications contain Simethicone which is meant to relieve the discomfort and pain associated with excessive gas by consolidating smaller gas bubbles into larger bubbles in the stomach so that can be passed more easily. Basically it makes the baby burp or fart. But, again, we didn’t have much success.  In the end, her digestive system just matured to the point where it became less of a problem.  The only “medication” that seemed to help was Little Remedies Gripe Water which we did give her sometimes after one month of age (the recommended time). The biggest advice I can give? Burp your baby. Even if it takes ages and ages. Making sure she’s burped properly is the number one way we prevent gas. Works better than any medication in my opinion.

 
life with baby one month
 

By the way, isn’t this outfit so cute? This is what I picked out for her to wear on her “one month” birthday. It was adorable. From Carters. I’m obsessed with the brand at the moment. The stuff is so cute and very affordable. I think, as she gets older, I’ll want to look for more unique options (a few boutique pieces here and there) but for now, the Carters stuff works perfectly. I was also gifted some beautiful outfits from Rosie Pope (a NYC boutique brand) which are so precious! She was so teeny tiny when she was born (6 lbs) that the newborn stuff looked enormous on her.  Once she started to hit that growth spurt, though, she quickly grew out of them.  Of course, you’ve gotta have stuff that fits the baby now but people weren’t kidding when they said “buy up a few sizes”. She’s got clothing she probably won’t even get to wear. Someone told us just to dress her up everyday and take pictures, don’t bother to “save” the good stuff for when we take her out. I thought this was hilarious but so true…

So, how did I feel at the end of the first month? More tired than I’d ever been in my life (and trust me, I’ve done some things that left me beyond exhausted) but also, happier than I’d ever been. Did I have moments of extreme stress and anxiety? Yes. I often thought – what am I doing? Am I really a parent? Can I do this? Why is she crying – am I doing something wrong? And it didn’t help when people offered unsolicited advice (however well-intentioned).  I broke down crying on more the one occasion  including after finding out about the severity of my infection during a follow-up visit with the doctor. Infections after a C-section are more likely if you don’t get enough rest – but who the hell is going to take it easy with a newborn? Anyway, point is, there were definitely down times for me.  These drifted far from my mind, however, when I’d have a moment of calm and peace, looking down at my little one and think “baby girl, you made us family”…

 

 

 

 

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10 thoughts on “Life with Baby One Month

  1. It’s amazing how sleep deprived you can be but still manage to go on because that’s your baby and they just instantly put a smile on your face regardless. My little one was also a crier and barely slept due to bad colic, so the first 6 months were super tough, but at the same time looking back they went by so fast and I wish I relaxed a bit more. Hope you and baby are doing well x

    Beauty with charm

    1. You are so right, Alina. I could watch her all day with a huge grin on my face. And I feel myself becoming anxious about how quickly the time is going. On a happier note, I don’t want to jinx myself but we got pretty lucky with the sleep thing, by the middle of the second month she was sleeping through the night…

  2. I’m so happy for you, Kimmy! Life with a baby is not easy but it’s so amazing at the same time. I remember those first weeks after my first son was born, they were so difficult but looking at your precious baby makes everything better. I agree that burping your baby after every feed is so important, we rarely had any problems with our boys having trapped gases. x

    Mummy’s Beauty Corner

    1. Thank you Dagmara, it has been amazing! I look at her and think…is that really my daughter? Does one ever get over the fascination? Probably not, huh? xo

    1. Yes, it does get better. 🙂 You know, I was just thinking the same thing the other day. We don’t have a second one yet, obviously, but we want to have one sooner rather than later. And knowing how much time and attention a new baby takes, made me wonder how people do it with two, three, four kids. But it will be fine, I think…and so will you. If anyone seems like they can handle it, it’s you. 🙂 xo

  3. Wow, I’m only just reading this. Congrats on your baby girl! It must be very tiring the first few months but I’m sure they’re totally worth it. I’m not a mum yet but it’s something I really want sometime in the next couple of years. Hope all is going well, now that she’s much more grown up. 🙂 x

    Renata | Speaking Beauty UK

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